Now I Am Six: Happy birthday to my blog!

But now I am six, I’m as clever as clever;
So I think I’ll be six now for ever and ever.

I missed my blog’s sixth birthday! Sorry, m’blog! It was in February. SIX YEARS! That’s an elder statesman blog. No wonder I can’t keep up with all you young hoodlums and your fancy domain names and your twitters and cookbooks. You’re all out there using hashtags and I’m pushing a hoop down the street with a stick thinking it’s my cat.

This is what Facebook looked like in 2007. I’M OLD.

Six years of blogging here. I think this blog was one of the first mental health blogs in the UK. It was started when blogging was really beginning to take off as a platform outside the realms of places like Livejournal and Xanga. I didn’t even really intend for this blog to be widely read; I never advertised it anywhere and only linked to it on my own Livejournal. So I’m surprised now, 6 years later, it’s amassed over 1 million hits! And had a radio play based upon it, which I still find so very weird! Weird! But lovely. Many odd, interesting, “Oh!” and, “Hooray!” things have happened as a result of this blog, and I’ve met many odd, interesting people as a result of it.

Mental health blogging has taken off since then. There are many more blogs now, and many more blogs out there that are better than mine. It’s fantastic to see a whole generation of people with mental health issues speaking out- honestly, openly and, to be honest, rather fascinatingly. They’re windows into the rooms of places whose doors are locked. You don’t have to a great writer to start a blog. You don’t even have to be a good one. It doesn’t have to be for anyone but yourself if you don’t want it to be. But I have found immense value in writing here. I’ve tried to pull away, many times, but this is my blogging home. It feels comfy. And, despite some arsehole trolls over the years, it feels safe. It’s one of the reasons I’ve kept it almost exclusively about mental health, as it’s my safe place to talk about it. It isn’t this clanging anchor I drop into conversations here; it’s the purpose. It’s full of scattercushions and dogmarked photographs, of scrappy recollections and half-forgottens-then-found. I love seeing familiar names pop up in the comments, and new names, too. I like that I might have had a hand in popularising, “mentally interesting” and, “mentalist”, as they’re both delightful words. The latter in particular has been reclaimed by the blogging world.

If you’re looking for my first posts, you won’t find them, as I made about 500 posts here private when I was looking for work. And really, would you want everybody to read what you wrote on the internet when you were 21? But I will return them to their published form. Although I’m a wee bit scundered (Norn Irish for embarrassed and the name of my never-to-be-published autobiography) by some of it, I’m not ashamed of any of it.

I was a baby when I started this blog. 21 years old with the life experience of a fifty year old but with the emotional maturity of a 15 year old. I had just weathered the duel storms of my father’s death and the hospitalisation that led to my diagnosis and the seven year long (so far) wrestling with treatment and the mental health system. The tagline of this blog used to be, “Navigating the labyrinth of NHS mental health services”, which I found my way out of in 2011. I, like a lot of people my age, have grown up online. I’ve kept journals since I was 12, and for me, the internet is partly an extension of that need to record. I kept my teenage diaries in fitful loneliness, longing to share my thoughts with something else other than paper. Which probably accounts for why I have the tendency to overshare a little! But I love being able to find a date and look back. My memory is legendarily awful and here is my six years of dropping stones to see which path I took, and how.

A lot has changed. I’m 27 now, but I feel as though I’ve aged another decade to that. Within the past four years particularly I have changed a lot. My life is fairly unrecognisable to how it was; I am still the same person I’ve always been (as evidenced by my dress sense failing to evolve from the one of my 14 year old self), but a quieter one. I sometimes miss the whirling dervish I was, but it’s still there. Emotionally, I’m a grown up now. I used to fear that mortally, but now I have no nostalgia for my past self in that sense.

I’m married, to someone I absolutely did not expect to be, I am, for the most part, ten times healthier than I was when I started this blog (and ten times fatter, alas!) I’m still messy and mental, but I prefer the person I am now to the person I was then. I always feared growing older, but didn’t anticipate the hugging hum of peace and confidence that comes with it. When I look back, there are so many times I was on the precipice of disaster, and I am thankful I never took that step and let life unfold. When I look back, there is more happiness than I imagined I would have.

Life hasn’t turned out as I expected it to, and there have been a few opportunities I have let slip through my fingers. I need to write more and work harder at that, and to do more with my life in general. I enjoy the standing still sometimes, though, the intake of breath before the drop.

So, a lot has changed! But I’m still here! I couldn’t have said, with any confidence, that I still would be 6 years later. Hooray and tough luck!

And a massive, huge thank you to everybody who has stuck by me all this time. You’re all so very soft and sexy. I hope that some who have come here in grief have found peace, and those who have come for help have found it. Much love, and if I’m still blogging here in six years, please, pull me off the internet, drive me to the countryside and abandon me in the woods to frolic with cartoon deers.

xxx

14 Responses

  1. Happy 6th Blog-Birthday! What a ride… Yes, I’m glad we’re now more honest and open about mental health issues. Thanks for being one of those who led the digital way. xx

  2. Happy blogoversary! It’s been a good place to come into, amongst other mental health bloggers.🙂 Though I admit that I still maintain my Livejournal — 11 and a half years, ands till going strong.

  3. You are the reason I started blogging. You are truly a pioneer in mental health blogging. Congratulations!

  4. This is the first mentally interesting blog I ever read. I’ve read every word I think – hopefully not in a stalkerish way. Happy bloggiversary.😀

  5. Happy Anniversary! Congratulations on keeping up a well-written, informative, and funny blog for all these six years. Keep up the good work!

  6. It’s funny to hear you refer to your 21 self as a baby as that’s the age I am now! I’m glad to read that things have changed for the better over the years🙂

  7. Happy birthday blog! It has been quite something to follow you over the years. I probably came to your blog a little late, maybe a year or two in. I have been amazed by your capacity to bounce back from various challenges and rooted for you when you were hit by yet another fucking thing to deal with.

    I have no doubt that your blog has helped many, many people with a mental health diagnosis and there will be a long line of people you’ll never hear from that have visited and been given a gentle nudge in a healthier direction or took solace and comfort from your posts.

    Now that I think about it, yours is the only blog that I follow that is about an individual as such. The only blog that’s comparable to a diary that I read. I guess that says something about the quality of your writing.

    So, three cheers for the blog! Hip hip…

  8. Yay, happy birthday, glad things r going well for you, this was one of the first places I realised ‘it’s not just me’ so cheers and I’ll raise a glass to you!

  9. Wow! 6 years old. And you don’t look a day over 3. Congrats.

    I am a fellow blogger with a mental illness and I’m currently working on a spiritual memoir entitled “Delight in Disorder: Meditations from a Bipolar Mind”. Currently, I’m working on “The Study” chapter where I reflect on books that have impacted my understanding of mental illness as well as list other works of art (books,movies,visual arts, music) worth exploring.

    I’d love for you to visit my site and share what you’ve found helpful. The post is here –

    http://writingforfoodinindy.wordpress.com/2013/05/14/madness-in-media/

    Hope to see you around.

  10. I’ve followed your blog for maybe 3 years now. I continue to follow and wish you well. It’s really special knowing there are others who have experienced severe mental health issues. I also like following the stuff where its not extremely low or extremely high, but in the middle. I dont yet know how to deal with all the emotionally middling stuff. Such is life: highs lows and middles.

    Best Wishes to you, Seaneen

  11. I just recommended your blog as part of ‘Blog for Mental Health – 2013’.
    http://alexisstone55.wordpress.com/2013/05/19/blog-for-mental-health-2013/

  12. I’ve just found this blog and am longing for a blog that reflects my life and it’s challenges, based on my age. And so I would really like if you could make the blog entries made at the age of 21 readable. I wish I had found this before! Congrats on the birthday mark!

    J, the Polar Bear.

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